How to Do...Nothing!

For many, one of the most difficult parts of a vacation is the act of relaxing. After all the research, planning, organizing, phone calls, packing, arrangments, and travel anxiety, by the time we're actually lounging, many of us are frustrated to find that our minds are still racing, our hearts are still thumping...and amazingly, we're beginning to stress over the trip home. This would be me! Even as a professional travel agent, I have these tendencies.

Those of us vacationing for the sole purpose of relaxation (this would be my husband, his middle name is vegetation) need to learn the steps involved in doing just that. Relaxing doesn't just mean settling in a lounge chair and hoping for the best. Like your concentrated planning for the vacation itself, relaxing, too, must be organized.

Anticipate your need to decompress on day one of your vacation. Don't plan any exerting activity for the first day. Instead, arrange for a little pampering, such as sleep late, get a massage, order room service, or take a walk along the beach. Indulge only in activities that you completely enjoy to minimize the stress often associated with trying new things.

Make time for yourself! As the "Happy Hostess," I tend to worry about everyone else. Arrange with your spouse for an hour or two of alone time. Even if it is just the two of you, the alone time is crucial. Don't think about the activities that you are missing, the sites you're not seeing...they will be there tomorrow. There will be time later, after you have relaxed enough to begin an incredible vacation.